I just realized I haven't blogged on here for a WHILE. And, I wanted to just drop a few very quick thoughts down regarding success vs. failures under the framework of the Asian shame based culture.
See, I was doing some mentoring and was talking with some of my mentors... and, I realized... the Asian mindset has it all wrong in terms of defining success. That is why 99% isn't good enough. That is why getting an "A" grade isn't good enough. That is why being #1 still isn't good enough... because, you could always be better... right?
It's because, success as defined by a shamed based culture is the ABSENCE of failure. And, since no one is perfect, failure is always present.
This leads to a cycle of never getting positive feedback for any achievement. And, achievement is the basis of success.
You have to ACT. You have to DO. You have to BE more, to be successful.
No one ever rose to the top by avoiding or making absent failure. Some of the most famous and revered of innovators, inventors, business icons, and social leaders FAILED ALL THE TIME. They embraced it and even credited failure as the pathway toward success.
Therefore, revamp that mindset!
Don't make absent "bad things" and credit it as success. All you've done, is not do... which is STUPID.
What you must have in your life is ACTION. Action to achieve and become more. Credit, celebrate, and welcome PRESENCE of success. And, indeed... embrace failure. For, there is no such thing unless you FAIL to LEARN. Failure is fine tuning. Failure becomes failure when you fail to act from the lesson it brings.