It's going to be a quick one today! This is simply in response to something I had to help one of the people I've been mentoring as of late. It's plain frustrating.... but, when you take a second look. It's so stupid it is actually silly. I really hope we can move beyond this as Millennial Asians.
We all know that line from Disney's The Lion King, right?
Thought of changin' my name...!
What's in a name?
Today, I want to talk about this idea that a name, a label, a title, a birthright... is your destiny.
And, I want to SHATTER the idea.
See, the biggest problem I have with this is the culturally pre-loaded expectations. While the examples are endless, today I want to focus on the "first born" expectation.
Your name is equated with being first born if you are first born. Moreover, if you are the first born son, everything is upon you.
It is your job to be the best there is... in everything. It is shameful to you if any of your siblings are superior in any way... at least in the eyes of your parents. And, why? It's because you're first born. It is because you are older. It is your destiny!
BAH! What bunk.
I hope we can all agree how stupid that even sounds now, when said out loud. It doesn't matter what family you are born into, what name you hold as your own, what label you've received... NONE OF THAT MATTERS.
What matters is what you do with your life. What matters is how you treat others. What matters is that your actions are meritorious, honorable, and right.
So, what's in a name? Only the value you give it.